Posted on June 24th, 2015 by Carrie Charles
For my entire life, I struggled with caring too much about other people’s opinions.
I would work hard to make people like me… even people that I didn’t like. I would obsess about what I said or didn’t say for hours after talking to someone.
Deep down inside I believed that other people were better than me and that I was secretly a fraud.
I would compare myself to others and if I felt inferior, I would use that as an excuse to give up. I took everything personal.
This deep desire for approval gave me a PhD in people pleasing. All I cared about was making everyone happy – an impossible goal!… Read the rest
Posted on June 9th, 2015 by Carrie Charles
I’m here with my kids, my ex-husband and his girlfriend. I know, it sounds strange, but we have one of those unique divorces that ended in a terrific friendship. We do holidays and vacations together and the kids love it!
When we travel, we are quite a crew. His girlfriend is 8-10 years older than my kids so we get a lot of puzzled looks.
But I learned a long time ago that you have a happier life when you forgive and give love than when you hold on to resentment and plot your revenge.… Read the rest
Posted on May 23rd, 2015 by Carrie Charles
Bad idea. When you are having a moment of bliss, put your phone away!!
I saw an email from my literary agent and the words, “Simon and Schuster”. My heart sank and I couldn’t breathe. I was expecting something awesome to be in that email!
But it wasn’t… it was a rejection. They said wonderful things about me and my book, however, it was still a rejection.
Apparently I didn’t learn my lesson. Four hours later, I was sitting in Sloppy Joes swaying to the sweet sound of country music (my fav), when I checked my email again. Being the positive person that I am, I knew it would be good news this time.… Read the rest
Posted on May 13th, 2015 by Carrie Charles
Thank goodness, because I talk to myself all the time!
We all know that negative self-talk is not good for you. But there is more to the story. There is a specific way you should address yourself for maximum results.
Studies show that when you address yourself with the pronoun “I”, you are likely to perform poorly under stress. When you address yourself by your name, your chances of success soar.
Researchers found that when it comes to the brain, distancing yourself from your sense of self helps you gain self-control, clarity and helps your performance.
You can use this information to effectively talk yourself through a challenge.… Read the rest