For my entire life, I struggled with caring too much about other people’s opinions.
I would work hard to make people like me… even people that I didn’t like. I would obsess about what I said or didn’t say for hours after talking to someone.
Deep down inside I believed that other people were better than me and that I was secretly a fraud.
I would compare myself to others and if I felt inferior, I would use that as an excuse to give up. I took everything personal.
This deep desire for approval gave me a PhD in people pleasing. All I cared about was making everyone happy – an impossible goal!… Read the rest
Bad idea. When you are having a moment of bliss, put your phone away!!
I saw an email from my literary agent and the words, “Simon and Schuster”. My heart sank and I couldn’t breathe. I was expecting something awesome to be in that email!
But it wasn’t… it was a rejection. They said wonderful things about me and my book, however, it was still a rejection.
Apparently I didn’t learn my lesson. Four hours later, I was sitting in Sloppy Joes swaying to the sweet sound of country music (my fav), when I checked my email again. Being the positive person that I am, I knew it would be good news this time.… Read the rest
Thank goodness, because I talk to myself all the time!
We all know that negative self-talk is not good for you. But there is more to the story. There is a specific way you should address yourself for maximum results.
Studies show that when you address yourself with the pronoun “I”, you are likely to perform poorly under stress. When you address yourself by your name, your chances of success soar.
Researchers found that when it comes to the brain, distancing yourself from your sense of self helps you gain self-control, clarity and helps your performance.
You can use this information to effectively talk yourself through a challenge.… Read the rest
You start something new. You’re excited and the ideas are flowing. You get right to work and doors begin to open. Great things start to happen. You wake up in the middle of the night with ideas. You can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning to put them into action.
Then BAM! You hit a wall. Everything stops flowing. Things become harder and more complicated. There are obstacles. The learning curve is bigger than you thought. You see other people further ahead of you. You get tired. You have flashing thoughts of doing something different. Then you lose momentum and motivation.
Is this a sign to stop and go in a different direction? Is it time to reconsider your passion?